THE DOCTRINE OF THE GOOD DESPICING THE BAD ALWAYS LEAVE HATRED WITH PLENTY TO FEED ON!(1)
Now we know better, grudges breed hatred. Dr Wayne W. Dyer, author of Your Erroneous Zones observes: “To not forgive is to not understand how the universe works and how you fit into it.” Most of the times when someone we love hurts us, it’s usually very tempting to start bearing grudges against the person. But the best thing to do is forget and forgive. Rather than put a label on somebody as an enemy, view him as your best friend instead. Let go off the notion, “I am hated and so I hate”. The right attitude is: when you are hated, show love instead, and when you are hurt, forgive. I’ve noticed this, each time I don’t forgive a single misdeed against me, my life is always turning the opposite – I wouldn’t find peace within me. The words of Abigail Van Buren are worth reciting: “People who fight fire with fire usually end up with ashes”. You shouldn’t expect to be forgiven if you can’t forgive. The problem with the world is that the dominant attitude of most of us is ‘revenge’. Nobody thinks of forgiveness these days.
Perhaps when you forgive a wrong deed the load work becomes lighter. Being as unforgiving as death is like one travelling with many loads. It’s a mistake to think that we can go too far ahead with grudges for one another. Consider the words of G. Weatherly: “Forgiving those who hurt us is the key to personal peace”. No nation can prosper if the rule “an eye for an eye” is still applicable. One of the major causes of our setbacks in life is our unwillingness to forgive. It’s always a heavy load not to forgive! The undisputable fact is that we are all full of weaknesses and flaws and most of the times we do things that hurt the other person. But if we truly want progress, we really have to forget and forgive. If you find yourself harbouring grudges against someone, check your back because someone elsewhere may be against you too. Most of the world’s conflicts have its beginning with revenge. If only we know this: “Hatred does not cease in the world by hating, but by not hating; this is an eternal truth” Buddha. We can actually learn to forgive freely each one his brother. There are only two ways to live our lives: preach forgiveness and practice it. Besides, what’s the point of preaching what you can’t practice? This Anonymous admonition demands sober reflection: “Live forgiveness everyday rather than just talk about it on Sundays”.
Now resist the temptation to revenge a wrong deed, your greatest mistake will happen as a result of it. If you can control your feelings, you can control your anger, and when there’s no anger, revenge and hatred will leave the way – the result is forgiveness. Revenge is an act which indicates that you have not learned to finally forgive…
(To be continued)
Lately, I’ve noticed that most people get weighed down by problems they face on daily basis. As a result, I have decided to run a series of nuggets that can help keep us all afloat life’s ‘downs’.
I’ll try as much as possible to be posting the sequels every 3(three) days. Enjoy.