I keep picturing a world where young people will start doing things right. Where you go into a relationship and get married for the right reasons.
I dream of a generation where the words divorce and separation will become archaic because they are no longer options. Where children will grow up enjoying both fatherly and motherly love.
I envision a time and dispensation where old women will look back with longing and say ” if i am given another opportunity to choose, i would choose my husband all over again.”
A time when husbands will say “behind every great man, there is indeed a woman of virtue.”
I picture a time when prostitutes will go into extinction because men have decided to stay home with their wives for better or worse.
I want a set of youths who will not give in to pressure but stand until they get it right. Singles that will be proud of their status and maximize it. People who will not go into a relationship because everybody is doing it but because they are finally ready to commit to one soul spiritually, mentally, physically, emotionally and socially.
I want a nation where love is given its true definition, where sex is not mistaken for love and wealth equated to elligibility.
Don’t get me wrong though, i am not trying to be foolish enough to paint a relationship or marriage committment as a bed of roses,because it is definitely not. But i want a relationship and marriage where two people will come together and say “come what may, we are in this together.”
Let me remind us of what a marriage oathlooks like for the benefit of those who are not familiar with it.
“I—— take you —— to be my wedded wife/husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness, in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part, according to God’s holy law, this is my solemn vow.”
I am not trying to scare you, i just want you to think twice. If you think he’s elligible because of his “fat pocket”, then think of the poorer times because it will definitely come. If you are in a relationship with her because of her nice and curvy shape, then think of the “in sickness” part when she no longer look so ravishing.
Finally, ask youself this question, “am i in love or lust?” If you are in lust, then i suggest you break off and retrace your steps and reorganise your priorities. If you are in love on the other hand, then i congratulate you and wish you well. And to those who have taken the oath, i say congratulations, make every effort to make your marriage work and never consider divorce as an option.