I Had a Girlfriend Once…

I had a girlfriend once.
Everytime I spent the weekend at her place, she had the exact same routine. She’d wake up sometime after six and before seven. She’d read till about seven thirty. She read everything; news, blogs, magazines…but sometimes she’d be in the middle of an excellent book and she’d wake up and read that. I often woke up to find her reading, tears silently streaming down her face as she got involved in a fictional tragedy.
She would get up at about seven thirty, pee, then brush her teeth. She would put on her running gear and go for a run. sometimes she was back after 10 minutes and sometimes after an hour, but she always went for a run. She’d wash her face, bring me a toothbrush with toothpaste on it and go and make breakfast. I’d brush my teeth and go and see what she was making. That was usually the first time we spoke.

She had speakers everywhere. She’d put on her present favorite album and it would play on repeat all day. really loudly. Then after breakfast, she would write. She was always in the middle of a story in her head. Sometimes, it was mundane and sometimes it was over the top. She was just always somewhere else. Sometimes she’d let me in by discussing her characters. ‘Daniel cheated on Gabby, you know? I don’t think she can take him back, even though she really wants to.’ Then she would sigh. Her characters were always real to her, I could often not tell whether the person she was talking about was created or real.

Sometimes, she’d only write for 20 minutes and then come and find me. She would curl herself  tightly as she could into me and take a nap. Or just start talking about something completely random. Or she would be quiet and let me speak about whatever I wanted. She was an amazing listener and she never got bored. Everyone’s story was a story she could use.

In the evening, we would go somewhere. The cinema or dinner. She would always hold my hand, but she hardly spoke. She wasn’t really a talker, so whenever I was with her, I wasn’t a talker either.

I met someone that was a talker. It was different. We talked about everything. Sometimes I’d talk to her all through my lunch break and not even notice I hadn’t eaten. We talked in the morning and in the middle of the night. She told me everything and I felt like a well had opened inside of me. I just had so much to say. In many ways, it was easy to spend all my time talking to someone else. The quiet weekends with my girlfriend became furious text-a-thons for me. I put a password on my phone, even though she never checked it and started waking up before her. I stopped taking naps with her and got irritated when she wandered from her writing to find me. If she noticed, she didn’t say anything and that often irritated me. Everything irritated me during this time.

I got deeper and I started to get careless, or maybe I just didn’t care about my girlfriend finding out. A message popped up on my phone during dinner. Damn iphones. ‘I wish I you were here with me’. Her lack of reaction made me fall over myself trying to explain. She looked really sad. ‘If she’s what makes you happy, I wish you’d have just told me and left me alone.’

That broke my heart. Our relationship ended as silently as it had been.

My new girlfriend was fun. We did things. Talked about things. I think I loved her. I loved our relationship, it was fun, until it wasn’t. We started running out of things to say and I longed for the silence. In the gaps, there was no intimacy there. If she wasn’t talking, I didn’t really know her. More and more, i thought of my old girlfriend.

I knew she hated when I left because she never looked back when she said bye. She didn’t want me to see her crying. I knew she loved anything that tasted of honey and hated chocolate. I knew all the things that made her laugh and most of the things that made her cry. I knew she loved weddings, but hated the idea of marriage. I knew she found it hard to trust anyone and always felt like she never fit in with people. I know she hated literary fiction because it over stated simple things. I knew she loved unfinished endings, because it felt more like real life. I knew her.

It wasn’t because of all the things she said, it was all the things she forced me to see by not saying anything.

I had a girlfriend once.

I think she may have been my soulmate.

64 thoughts on “I Had a Girlfriend Once…” by damivd (@damivd)

  1. Awwwww. this story, so so. This could be anyone’s story. i’m simply speechless, but this is good.

  2. Don’t we all wish we were ‘smarter’.

    You NEVER what you had till it wakas.


    1. thank you…I think sometimes you know what you have, but you don’t know its what you want.

  3. Whoa!
    This is goooooood!

  4. I like this style of writing, and I like the story too. It was well written.

    Well done.

  5. Wow.. Na so life be. We can’t have everything figured out. Nice piece but for a few typos. Welldone.

    1. yeah, sometimes we need bad things to happen to figure things out. Thank you.

  6. This was beautiful. You state something we so often encounter in our lives… but you do so with such understated simplicity.

    Well done, @Damivd – please accept 30 points.

    1. points? Sorry I’m not completely sure how everything works…thank you.

      1. @damivd

        Your name reminds me of one certain “E ma dami duro’ singer…

        It’s easy. What ’30 Points’ means is that 30 of us line up in a straight line and point our index fingers at you.

        There. 30 ‘Points’…!

        Hope that made you laugh. I was joking obviously.

        You have points for your activities on here. And you also can dash people points – which @TolaO just did.


        1. @Seun-Odukoya, honestly,do you believe I waz actually refering to him as David-O?!

  7. I loved this, got me thinking too. Well done.

    1. Thanks Myne! It’s been a while.

  8. I like this one ooo. Good story.

  9. You might not know the value of what you have until you loss it,

    Well done.

  10. Found bits of myself in this….This was really lovely…very lovely.

    1. Thanks! I always really like when people find something to relate to.

  11. hmm, I loved this so much because I could relate with so many parts. My favourite line is this – “It wasn’t because of all the things she said, it was all the things she forced me to see by not saying anything.”
    One or two typos but it didn’t remove the strong aura of your story.
    Good job.

    1. Thank you. I’ll maybe work on the typos? :)

  12. Girl fri(end)
    Boy fri(end)
    Best fri(end)

    Each ends with “End.”

    Fam(ily) only lasts & it ends with “ILY”
    meaning I Love You.

    Ostar was here.

    1. so pessimistic! bleh! :p

  13. yes…you write like i want to write. so beautiful…

    1. aaaw, I love hearing stuff like this, thank you.

  14. Beautiful written. Reminds me of an Ex which took more than 3 years and 2 other relationships to get over.

    Keep writing @damivd

    1. exes like that are the worst. Thank you.

  15. This is so lovely, haven’t read anything this nice for a while.

    1. aaaw, I’m really glad you feel that way! Thank you

  16. well you took a hike – you are not really romantic like your girlfriend. by the way are men really romantic? nice story and well crafted.

    1. I think men can be very romantic. Thank you.

  17. Nice…Nice…

  18. I like this story. “I know she hated literary fiction because it over stated simple things. I knew she loved unfinished endings, because it felt more like real life. I knew her.” Wow! Keep it up.

    1. I’ll try to…thank you!

  19. Mademi (@mademi08)

    Really Nice!

  20. this is really good……nice work!!!!!!!

  21. Arrrrgh! I’m not a pirate lol. But this hits home, it’s real! Not that I’ve been in any “relationship” but I can definitely relate.

  22. Craftily or craft in ink.
    This is terribly thoughtful and condensed.
    You write.

  23. I was waiting to see how you would end it and you definitely did not disappoint!

    It ended with that heart-rendering finality that summarizes the whole essence of the story…and thats a beautiful way to write!

    Nice job!

  24. Really enjoyed it. Nice story. Keep it up.

    1. shai (@shaifamily)

      I second, jeeeeze!

  25. Nice story. Nice plot. Watch out for tense mix-ups.

  26. wow!!! this piece is so good….

  27. It’s a good story..merely managed to convey the emotions, but it rang a bit still. The typos and tense confusion betray the rush of the work…be more patient next time. Well done!!

  28. Wow… This sounds so real and just goes to show how human beings will always get bored with what they have, even if it’s the best thing that ever happened to them.

  29. beautifully written

  30. Really, really good. The girl is exactly my type of woman…


  32. Very well-written. Well done, and do maintain this style.

  33. This ia a very nice piece of writing. I love it.

    I like quiet artie girls. I think your MC isn’t compatible with the first. He has to find a talkative again.

  34. Beautiful writing. Just beautiful.

  35. A true work of art.

  36. katiee (@katiee)

    I really liked it….

  37. Beautiful.. Goes to show how much humans long for what they don’t have..

    The 1st girl would definitely find someone that gets her. Hope he doesn’t!…

    I love the story…Well done…$ß.

  38. Ok. Now I see why your writing got all the attention and its simple: you keep it simple. Knuckles.

  39. Just had to come back and read these lines again. Forever awesome.

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