“A Thief Has Come”

“A thief has come”
I am to die
I came out screaming and kicking
Threathening to expose the evil ways of my people
They will shut me up
I am a girl

They want him
He’s more precious than gold
I am to give him even more precious stones
And leave my father broke
I am a girl

I am a rock
That’s the precious stone I am
Throw me at their sick superstitions
And I’ll strike harder
Than anything they’ve ever seen since my mother
I won’t break

My mother will soon let go of my tiny hands
She will add poison to my milk
She will crush my neck
She will place a wet cloth above my head
“I can’t breathe mom”
I’ll suffocate and die

By midnight she’ll try again
Hoping this time it’s not an abomination
This is the eighth time
Papa will be angry
Mama doesn’t stand a chance
She’s a woman who isn’t a mother
A woman who wasn’t needed by her own mother
So why should she keep me?

She will yield to his will
Because the zeros on my head are zero
And by morning
No… instantaneously,
I’ll be gone
The lesser evil is to kill me
Because I’m that fragile pot the potter refused

I wrote this after watching a documentry “It’s a Girl” on the Gendercide that occurs in some part of Asia and I’m sure it happens in some parts of Africa too… “What is the price tag on a daughter?”



5 thoughts on ““A Thief Has Come”” by Ufuoma Otebele (@ufuomaotebele)

  1. I think the idea that girls are worthless is a regional thing. For instance in some lands in Nigeria, girls are cherished more than their male counterparts. In some other place, a girl is just worthless. If you don’t have a male issue it’s as if the woman is barren and has not given birth.

    But over time, empirical experiences have shown that girls are as valuable as the boys. So most cultures allot landed property and other thing to girls too as inheritance in their father’s house so that even if they are married out, they still retain those inheritance.

    It’s very wrong indeed to think that girl-child is worth nothing. I have seen where the boys will be jobless and nuisance while the girls are out working hard and catering for their parents. I’m sure such parents won’t regret having girls.

    Nice write @ufuomaotebele

  2. Roy Udeh-Ubaka (@Roy-journals)

    I really like the message passed across with this. Girls are often times, to say the least, marginalized in the society. Like @chime221 said, in some place, a woman without a male child is seen as barren and as a woman without strong bearing in her husband’s house.
    Girls are just as important as boys, and no human being, irrespective of the sex, should be seen as less or more important than the other.
    Good message.
    Nice write up.

  3. Folakemi Emem-Akpan (@Folakemi)

    Preferring male children to female children is a regional thing as @chime221 said, but it is too widespread. From my reading, it is in only very few places that female children and preffered above boys.
    Take China for example. With its one child per couple policy, women abort female fetuses. Now, the demographics of the country is screwed up; more male of the marriageable age than females.
    In my husband’s place (akwa ibom), females don’t inherit anything. While I am of the opinion that every child should work hard for his/her own money and not wait for inheritance, it still goes to show that “boys are better than girls”. It makes me fairly mad. good work, Ufuoma

  4. @UFUOMAOTEBELE. Its really sad when parents prefer male children to female children. I’m a man but when I was a child I used to wish that I was a girl because my parents paid more attention to my sisters than to me and my brothers.

  5. six (@six)

    I’ve never really been exposed to this reality first-hand, but I think it’s really base. The gender-specificity certain cultures place a significance on as regards child-bearing is extremely petty, it doesn’t make much sense. Children are all products of nature and gifts from GOD, they should be treated as such. Females shouldn’t be seen as the unwanted alternatives, n neither should males. Nice one @ufuomaotebele

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