We Should All Be Fashionists

We teach boys to shrink themselves; to make themselves smaller.
We say to boys: You can be fashionable but not too much.
You should aim to look good but not too good otherwise you’d threaten the woman.

Because I am male, I’m expected to aspire to monochrome.
I’m expected to make my fashion choices always keeping in mind that colors are the least important.

Now colors can be a source of joy and love and self-fulfillment,
But why do we teach girls to aspire to colors and we don’t teach boys the same?

We teach boys to see each other as stylish,
Not with colors or prints, which I think can be a good thing,
But with the adornment of ties.

We teach boys that they can not be fashion beings in the way that girls are.

Fashionist: A person who believes in the social, colorful, fashionable and seasonal equality of sexes.

Disclaimer: I hope you all can forgive me for doing this to Chimamanda’s ‘We Should All Be Feminists’ speech. It’s totally boredom and lack of inspiration.

15 thoughts on “We Should All Be Fashionists” by Rhoiy (@Roy-journals)

  1. yerh, fashion shouldnt be a thing of the feminine gender. we should all be.

    1. Rhoiy (@Roy-journals)

      Of course fashion should be a thing for all…. And men should learn to embrace colours and prints.

    2. Rhoiy (@Roy-journals)

      Of course, @Shovey fashion should be a thing for all…. And men should learn to embrace colours and prints.

  2. Haha. Why wait for inspiration to write? Its so fickle anyway.

    1. Rhoiy (@Roy-journals)

      Thanks for the comment @mcsnol
      If let loose, I will spill my brains… Lol!

  3. Who’s bearing grudges in this supersonic age?
    C’mon @roy-journals !
    Being fashion conscious is the in thing now. Who wants to look haggard anyway?

    So, yes ‘we should all be fashionists’
    You see, when women cry wolf as Chimamanda did in that infamous speech, I find it difficult to understand why.

    Now look at the fine points of marginalisation of the male-child that you just marshalled out! Why are people not talking about those?

    The thing is, if the tenets of feminism should be applied, it must be to the latter and also all encompassing.

    Nice read.

    1. Rhoiy (@Roy-journals)

      I agree with you o. Being fashion conscious is the in thing now but people aren’t quite comfortable with a man looking colorful.

      But Nna, Chimamnda’s TED talk on ‘We should all be Feminists’ is one I totally respect. She made massive points in that speech. And I honestly believe they were necessary.

      I agree with you though. Sometimes men are being marginalized, but not half as much as the women. Finally sha, we should all try to be fair. @chime221 Thanks for the comment.

  4. You see when I see a man wearing leopard prints or pink pants or flowered shirt, the first thing that comes to my mind is 14 YEARS.

    1. Rhoiy (@Roy-journals)

      You see? This is the exact stereotype that sorta influenced this write up.

      @ameenaedrees It’s just like saying that when you see a girl wearing boyfriend trousers she automatically becomes lesbian. There were indeed times when trousers on girls were being frowned upon, but today name that girl who doesn’t have a trouser hanging in her wardrobe or folded beneath her box.

      Honestly, I don’t think there is anything wrong with a heterosexual guy choosing to be fashionable with colors. Lol! Printed shirts, whether flowery or not, are the in thing for me o. Lol! What would I do without my prints.
      And seriously, there is something insanely classy about a man in a pink shirt.

    2. Haha omg. @ameenaedrees very true. But it’s the way we’ve been programmed. But I see boys copying celebrities and taking fashion dares with colors and it’s actually quite gorgeous. But I have to say Leopard print us too much though lol

  5. Well, nice one. Me, not a fashion person, I prefer style.

    1. @elovepoetry , fashion begets style. It’s hard to be fashion conscious and not be stylish. And you cannot be a stylist if you are not first a ‘fashionist’.
      Fashion is the umbrella under which style lodges.

      1. Rhoiy (@Roy-journals)

        As in @chime221 you said it clearly. Fashion begets style. @elovepoetry You can’t say you like to be stylish but not fashionable. I don’t think it exactly works.
        Having a sense of style is being fashionable.

  6. it is true that we all (well, almost all of us) harbour that feeling that men should not be colourful in their dressing. Perhaps it is narrowminded, but I do find myself rolling my eyes when I see men in too loud shirts. Perhaps its time for a change of mind.
    Hmn…but not socolourful sha it looks like a rainbow threw up. hahahaha

    1. Rhoiy (@Roy-journals)

      Hahahahahaha! @folakemi Of course not! Who still dresses so colorful these days? Even fashionable girls don’t have so much colors on them. Just a tint of color here and there, and not just on their ties.
      I just think the idea of rolling your eyes at a guy dressed colorfully is somewhat stereotypical.

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