In our obodo Nigeria, there are definitely great women. Presently, there is Dr. (Mrs.) Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, the former Federal Minister of Finance, who secured our debt relief from the Paris Club. I am sure we are yet to see more great feats coming from her in the near future. There is Prof. (Mrs.) Dora Akunyili, the former director-general of the National Food and Drug Administration and Control (NAFDAC), whose fierce attack on fake drugs worth millions of naira has once again restored the integrity of the country. There is Dr. (Mrs.) Veronica Ogbuagu, the former Commissioner for Education in Delta State, whose efforts at maintaining and sustaining a strong, peaceful, healthy and corrupt-free educational system for all the children in the state have not gone unnoticed. There is also Honourable (Mrs.) Faith Okei-Onukwu, the former councillor representing Ward 2 at Ogwashi-Uku, Aniocha South Local Government Area of Delta State, whose little contributions to the growth and development of her ward and local government are getting big in size and her people praise her for them.
In spite of the greatness of these women I have mentioned, they always remain subject to their husbands, as earlier mentioned. In the days of old, it was somehow forbidden for a man to cry and/or feel any form of internal or external pain, for that man would be referred to as a woman. Men who ululate like women are considered to be weak. Women are never to be found where there is a gathering of men, or it would be termed as an abomination. Women were taken as properties to be acquired, they were home-keepers, cooks and, most of all to assert womanhood, they were the manufacturers of babies. Any woman who was barren was a disgrace to the community. All women were destined to be paid for in the form of dowries, become wives and become mothers.
But I ask you women out there, and likewise the men: Is marriage the ultimate in life? Is acquiring that title “Mrs.” the zenith in a woman’s life? If the answer is in the affirmative, I personally seem to doubt it. Women are human beings just like men. They have dreams and aspirations just like men do, even though the adage “what a man can do, a woman can do better” cannot be applied to all situations. As much as we know that women have equal rights with men, there is a limit to what a woman can do. Fortunately, the same thing goes for the man. Women make up the greatest percentage in world population, but this is open to dispute.
God made a special preference for women. The women in the bible either led their men to divine stardom or to their ruin. The women during Jesus’ time took care of him and got their own blessings. The women in the Old Testament were significant in ushering in the men that God had blessed and strengthened, and even the men that God had destroyed. The female gender was even applied in the Bible severally. It is a certainty that girls in convents and nunneries, if they sincerely maintain their purity, would be among the 144,000 people that God will have close to Him in the kingdom of Heaven, likewise the boys in seminaries.
In the animal kingdom, the cock on heat has to chase the hen in order to mount her and successfully get her pregnant for her to lay eggs. The male hummingbird dances in the air to get the attention of the female who would be busy scavenging for food. The he-goat bleats intensively and chases the she-goat in order to mate with her. The male dog whines consistently, trying his best to appear attractive to the bitch on heat, and he is not the only male dog after her. Even in the amphibian world, two male snakes would bang heads together in battle in order to win the female snake and mate with her. Even a female frog is larger in size more than the male.
The men of old have grossly underestimated and underrated the power of a woman. What would make a man go a bit gaga in his mind when he sees an extremely beautiful woman? As earlier mentioned, the power of a woman lies on her body, her scent, even in the ability of her hands and what she has in store in her mind. Once she knows she is voluptuous, her body-hugging and expository clothes bring out the much needed effect, like a second skin. Research has it that men are naturally attracted by sight while women are attracted by touch. This finding is debatable, but it appears that over 50% of people around the world agree to this. Because of the humanity in women, there are different types of women as well as there are different types of men. A woman can destroy a man, a woman can save a man’s life, a woman can make a man lose his amour propre, a woman can make a man strengthen it, and a woman can as well make a man make either the best or the worst decision of his life. Some men do not know what they want in life until they catch sight of the kind of woman they fancy.
Women are obviously more emotional than men; that part of the brain that controls emotions is very much active and alive in women than in men. This makes women mature faster than men. A girl can become a lady and then a woman faster than when a boy becomes a man. The natural scattered strands of hair found in the chin, chest and breasts of certain women makes people to believe that those women have the tendency to be wicked, but there are exceptional cases. Information has it that these kind of women are great and powerful “bedmaticians”, for their hairs are excellent stimulants.
Making love to a woman requires a lot of work from the man, and yet it gives him an unspeakable amount of innermost pleasure. That skin-to-skin contact drives both the man and woman crazy. It gives a man a sense of inexplicable joy, whether temporary or permanent, to be able to “mould” an agreeable (or disagreeable) woman to be his own during lovemaking. Even though God used sex for the sake of procreation and populating the world, the pleasure that He placed in it is what most men think about when searching for (or rather hunting for) their women, but it is usually a woman’s business to make lovemaking pleasurable or not. A man feels an overwhelming sense of relaxation in the arms of a woman after lovemaking, and gradually the heart of that man is open. It is known that wives get whatever it is they want from their husbands in bed.
During the period of wooing or courting or toasting, women become “the only cockroach in the cupboard”, “the only sugar in the tea”, “the only bird in the sky”, “the only flower in the garden”, etc. Why do you think a man feels an inner sense of victory when he has successfully won the heart of a woman, whether his intentions for her were negative or positive? Sometimes, he would even celebrate his victory with his fellow male friends in a beer parlour. It takes a very special woman for that very special man to say to her over the phone: “I can never be bored with you, babe. You’re a rare gift. You give my life a lift.”
The talk on women is never exhaustive. There is no end to the general talk on women. This has led me to conclude that women bring sunshine into the lives of men in particular and the society at large. This is a simple certainty: Man without woman is nothing. A good, strong and motivated woman brings out the best in a man. Who can talk about women better, the man or the woman? In the bible, Elizabeth may have said to Mary: “Blessed are you among women”, but I say: Blessed are the women.