Blessed are the women: A perspective – 3

In our obodo Nigeria, there are definitely great women.  Presently, there is Dr. (Mrs.) Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, the former Federal Minister of Finance, who secured our debt relief from the Paris Club.  I am sure we are yet to see more great feats coming from her in the near future.  There is Prof. (Mrs.) Dora Akunyili, the former director-general of the National Food and Drug Administration and Control (NAFDAC), whose fierce attack on fake drugs worth millions of naira has once again restored the integrity of the country.  There is Dr. (Mrs.) Veronica Ogbuagu, the former Commissioner for Education in Delta State, whose efforts at maintaining and sustaining a strong, peaceful, healthy and corrupt-free educational system for all the children in the state have not gone unnoticed.  There is also Honourable (Mrs.) Faith Okei-Onukwu, the former councillor representing Ward 2 at Ogwashi-Uku, Aniocha South Local Government Area of Delta State, whose little contributions to the growth and development of her ward and local government are getting big in size and her people praise her for them.

In spite of the greatness of these women I have mentioned, they always remain subject to their husbands, as earlier mentioned.  In the days of old, it was somehow forbidden for a man to cry and/or feel any form of internal or external pain, for that man would be referred to as a woman.  Men who ululate like women are considered to be weak.  Women are never to be found where there is a gathering of men, or it would be termed as an abomination.  Women were taken as properties to be acquired, they were home-keepers, cooks and, most of all to assert womanhood, they were the manufacturers of babies.  Any woman who was barren was a disgrace to the community.  All women were destined to be paid for in the form of dowries, become wives and become mothers.

But I ask you women out there, and likewise the men: Is marriage the ultimate in life?  Is acquiring that title “Mrs.” the zenith in a woman’s life?  If the answer is in the affirmative, I personally seem to doubt it.  Women are human beings just like men.  They have dreams and aspirations just like men do, even though the adage “what a man can do, a woman can do better” cannot be applied to all situations.  As much as we know that women have equal rights with men, there is a limit to what a woman can do.  Fortunately, the same thing goes for the man.  Women make up the greatest percentage in world population, but this is open to dispute.

God made a special preference for women.  The women in the bible either led their men to divine stardom or to their ruin.  The women during Jesus’ time took care of him and got their own blessings.  The women in the Old Testament were significant in ushering in the men that God had blessed and strengthened, and even the men that God had destroyed.  The female gender was even applied in the Bible severally.  It is a certainty that girls in convents and nunneries, if they sincerely maintain their purity, would be among the 144,000 people that God will have close to Him in the kingdom of Heaven, likewise the boys in seminaries.

In the animal kingdom, the cock on heat has to chase the hen in order to mount her and successfully get her pregnant for her to lay eggs.  The male hummingbird dances in the air to get the attention of the female who would be busy scavenging for food.  The he-goat bleats intensively and chases the she-goat in order to mate with her.  The male dog whines consistently, trying his best to appear attractive to the bitch on heat, and he is not the only male dog after her.  Even in the amphibian world, two male snakes would bang heads together in battle in order to win the female snake and mate with her.  Even a female frog is larger in size more than the male.

The men of old have grossly underestimated and underrated the power of a woman.  What would make a man go a bit gaga in his mind when he sees an extremely beautiful woman?  As earlier mentioned, the power of a woman lies on her body, her scent, even in the ability of her hands and what she has in store in her mind.  Once she knows she is voluptuous, her body-hugging and expository clothes bring out the much needed effect, like a second skin.  Research has it that men are naturally attracted by sight while women are attracted by touch.  This finding is debatable, but it appears that over 50% of people around the world agree to this.  Because of the humanity in women, there are different types of women as well as there are different types of men.  A woman can destroy a man, a woman can save a man’s life, a woman can make a man lose his amour propre, a woman can make a man strengthen it, and a woman can as well make a man make either the best or the worst decision of his life.  Some men do not know what they want in life until they catch sight of the kind of woman they fancy.

Women are obviously more emotional than men; that part of the brain that controls emotions is very much active and alive in women than in men.  This makes women mature faster than men.  A girl can become a lady and then a woman faster than when a boy becomes a man.  The natural scattered strands of hair found in the chin, chest and breasts of certain women makes people to believe that those women have the tendency to be wicked, but there are exceptional cases.  Information has it that these kind of women are great and powerful “bedmaticians”, for their hairs are excellent stimulants.

Making love to a woman requires a lot of work from the man, and yet it gives him an unspeakable amount of innermost pleasure.  That skin-to-skin contact drives both the man and woman crazy.  It gives a man a sense of inexplicable joy, whether temporary or permanent, to be able to “mould” an agreeable (or disagreeable) woman to be his own during lovemaking.  Even though God used sex for the sake of procreation and populating the world, the pleasure that He placed in it is what most men think about when searching for (or rather hunting for) their women, but it is usually a woman’s business to make  lovemaking pleasurable or not.  A man feels an overwhelming sense of relaxation in the arms of a woman after lovemaking, and gradually the heart of that man is open.  It is known that wives get whatever it is they want from their husbands in bed.

During the period of wooing or courting or toasting, women become “the only cockroach in the cupboard”, “the only sugar in the tea”, “the only bird in the sky”, “the only flower in the garden”, etc.  Why do you think a man feels an inner sense of victory when he has successfully won the heart of a woman, whether his intentions for her were negative or positive?  Sometimes, he would even celebrate his victory with his fellow male friends in a beer parlour.  It takes a very special woman for that very special man to say to her over the phone: “I can never be bored with you, babe.  You’re a rare gift.  You give my life a lift.”

The talk on women is never exhaustive.  There is no end to the general talk on women.  This has led me to conclude that women bring sunshine into the lives of men in particular and the society at large.  This is a simple certainty: Man without woman is nothing.  A good, strong and motivated woman brings out the best in a man.  Who can talk about women better, the man or the woman?  In the bible, Elizabeth may have said to Mary: “Blessed are you among women”, but I say: Blessed are the women.

CONCLUDED



33 thoughts on “Blessed are the women: A perspective – 3” by Emmanuella Nduonofit (@Emmanuella-Nduonofit)

  1. Men go gaga for women, not because of the female mind, its just for the sex. The major weapon a woman has is her sexuality, believe it or not. Sex is the only reason women have not been wiped away from the face of the earth.

    1. in a way, you have a point. but i wont be caught standing behind you on this. get ready for some flaying

  2. Women are human beings, yes, but lesser human beings by nature. A ‘normal’ woman’s goal in life is to have a man of her own. Ask them, Every other thing is an addition.
    It is true women can make or mar a man, they bring restraint and sanity to the world, but this ability cannot be attributed to their brain power. A woman is a sexual animal first, ask Freud and Nietzsche.

    1. @kaycee read this:
      Archaeological evidence from Europe and the Middle East has suggested that Stone Age civilizations practiced goddess worship and were organized as matriarchies—social orders with women in charge. However, from the time of the earliest written records, these civilizations had been overtaken by patriarchal cultures that worshiped male gods and in which men were political, religious, and military leaders, and women were kept in subordination. In the time of the ancient Greeks and ancient Romans and in the early Christian era, women were excluded from public life and were made subordinate to men. For example, Greek philosopher Aristotle argued in his Politics that women were inferior to men and must be ruled by men. Saint Paul told Christian wives to obey their husbands and not to speak in church.

      In most societies throughout most of the second millennium, women were deprived of property, education, and legal status. They were made the responsibility of their husbands if married, or of their fathers or other male relatives if not. However, there were examples of exceptional women who challenged patriarchal structures in their lives and writings. For example, a German abbess, Hildegard of Bingen, defied the authority of male church leaders; and an Italian writer and courtier, Christine de Pisan, defended women and wrote biblical commentaries that challenged the patriarchal ideas inherent in Christianity. By the end of the 17th century, a number of women writers, such as Mary Astell in England, were calling for improvements in women’s education.

      Microsoft ® Encarta ® 2009. © 1993-2008 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.

    2. I’m sure Kaycee is joking. Haba…I would expect him to know better…after alll he is supposed to be eduacted.

      1. LOL…

        Seems there’s more going on here than is evident. Una no drag me enter o!

  3. Do women think men are happy when beautiful girls get preferential treatment because of their looks? Ask the male job seeker? And women should stop making men feel guilty, we didn’t ask to be the stronger vessels.
    Again, Men can go unmarried, how many women CAN, by choice.

    1. your chauvinism is quite alarming oga

    2. IS that your argument Kaycee?!

      I’m astonished.

  4. @admin, permit me to post this article here for the benefit of the whole house:

    Feminism
    I INTRODUCTION
    Betty FriedanBetty Friedan’s best-selling book The Feminine Mystique, published in 1963, introduced and promoted the idea that women could find happiness in careers that had nothing to do with raising a family. Friedan became a leader in the women’s movement, and in 1966 she founded the National Organization for Women (NOW), which continues to advocate equality and freedom for women. Here, Friedan is shown with Gloria Steinem in August 1977 signing an “ERAgram” asking President Jimmy Carter to support the Equal Rights Amendment.UPI/THE BETTMANN ARCHIVE
    Feminism, collective term for systems of belief and theories that pay special attention to women’s rights and women’s position in culture and society. The term tends to be used for the women’s rights movement, which began in the late 18th century and continues to campaign for complete political, social, and economic equality between women and men. This article deals specifically with the development of the ideas behind that movement and their influence and impact.

    Feminists are united by the idea that women’s position in society is unequal to that of men, and that society is structured in such a way as to benefit men to the political, social, and economic detriment of women. However, feminists have used different theories to explain these inequalities and have advocated different ways of redressing inequalities, and there are marked geographic and historical variations in the nature of feminism.

    Historically, feminist thought and activity can be divided into two waves. The first wave, which began in about 1800 and lasted until the 1930s, was largely concerned with gaining equal rights between women and men. The second wave, which began in the late 1960s, has continued to fight for equality but has also developed a range of theories and approaches that stress the difference between women and men and that draw attention to the specific needs of women.

    II TRADITIONAL IDEAS ABOUT WOMEN
    Venus of LespugueA number of small statues of female figures dating back to paleolithic times have been discovered in Europe. They suggest the possibility of goddess worship during the Stone Age. This statuette, known as the Venus of Lespugue, was found in southwestern France. Carved from the tusk of a mammoth, it is estimated to be 27,000 years old.Archivo Iconografico, S.A./Corbis
    Archaeological evidence from Europe and the Middle East has suggested that Stone Age civilizations practiced goddess worship and were organized as matriarchies—social orders with women in charge. However, from the time of the earliest written records, these civilizations had been overtaken by patriarchal cultures that worshiped male gods and in which men were political, religious, and military leaders, and women were kept in subordination. In the time of the ancient Greeks and ancient Romans and in the early Christian era, women were excluded from public life and were made subordinate to men. For example, Greek philosopher Aristotle argued in his Politics that women were inferior to men and must be ruled by men. Saint Paul told Christian wives to obey their husbands and not to speak in church.

    Christine de Pisan’s Book of the City of Ladies Christine de Pisan was a French poet who wrote in the 1400s. In The Book of the City of Ladies (1405), she celebrated the achievements of women and put forth the idea of a city inhabited only by women.Gianni Dagli Orti/Corbis
    In most societies throughout most of the second millennium, women were deprived of property, education, and legal status. They were made the responsibility of their husbands if married, or of their fathers or other male relatives if not. However, there were examples of exceptional women who challenged patriarchal structures in their lives and writings. For example, a German abbess, Hildegard of Bingen, defied the authority of male church leaders; and an Italian writer and courtier, Christine de Pisan, defended women and wrote biblical commentaries that challenged the patriarchal ideas inherent in Christianity. By the end of the 17th century, a number of women writers, such as Mary Astell in England, were calling for improvements in women’s education.

    III THE FIRST WAVE
    Mary WollstonecraftEnglish author Mary Wollstonecraft wrote one of the first great documents of feminism, A Vindication of the Rights of Women, in 1792.Tate Gallery, London/Art Resource, NY
    Although the word feminism was not used until the end of the 19th century, recognizably feminist beliefs began to emerge in the late 18th century. The earliest form of feminism was concerned with equal rights for women and men: this meant equal standing as citizens in public life and, to some extent, equal legal status within the home. These ideas emerged in response to the American Revolution (1775-1783) and the French Revolution (1789-1799), both of which advocated values of liberty and equality. Feminists in France argued that the revolution’s values of liberty, equality, and fraternity should apply to all, while women activists in America called for an extension of the principles of the American Declaration of Independence to women, including rights to citizenship and property.

    In England, Mary Wollstonecraft wrote A Vindication of the Rights of Woman (1792). In this work she demanded equality and better education for women and made the first sustained critique of the social system that relegated women to an inferior position. In the early 19th century, a small group of middle-class women in Britain began to call for better education, improved legal rights (especially within marriage), employment opportunities, and the right to vote. Equal-rights feminism was given theoretical justification by philosopher John Stuart Mill, who wrote The Subjection of Women (1869), which was partly influenced by his wife, Harriet Taylor.

    Emmeline Pankhurst, arrested in 1914In 1903 Emmeline Pankhurst founded the Woman’s Social and Political Union (WSPU), an organization dedicated to obtaining the vote for women in Britain. The WSPU became militant, smashing windows and burning unoccupied buildings to bring attention to its cause. Jailed for the first time in 1908, Pankhurst continued her protest through a hunger strike. She undertook hunger strikes during subsequent arrests and was released and then rearrested depending on her health.Hulton Getty Picture Collection
    From the 1850s onward, the campaign for equal rights for women became focused on winning the right to vote, also known as woman suffrage. Susan B. Anthony and Elizabeth Cady Stanton led the campaign for women’s suffrage in the United States. Suffrage movements also appeared in New Zealand, the Soviet Union, Germany, Poland, Austria, and Sweden.

    Toward the end of the 19th century, another strand of feminist thinking appeared that questioned social attitudes toward women. These attitudes were expressed through representations of women in literature and other art forms and social rules for women’s behavior. By the turn of the 20th century, the media in North America and Europe became preoccupied with the image of the “new woman.” This woman challenged patriarchy not only by demanding equal civil rights but also by defying social conventions and choosing her own lifestyle and clothes.

    By the 1920s, feminists began to turn their attention from questions of equality between women and men to issues that mainly concerned women. They called, for example, for improved welfare provisions for mothers and children (see Child Welfare). These issues would become stronger in the second wave of feminism.

    IV THE SECOND WAVE
    Simone de BeauvoirFrench writer and philosopher Simone de Beauvoir is probably best known as a forerunner of the feminist movement of the 1960s. Her book The Second Sex, published in 1949, is considered a classic of feminist literature.CSU Archives/The Everett Collection, Inc.
    The original impetus for the so-called second wave of feminism came from the civil rights movement and antiwar protests that emerged in the 1960s in North America and from social protest movements in Europe and Australasia. The women’s liberation movement, which started in the United States, combined liberal, rights-based concerns for equality between women and men with demands for a woman’s right to determine her own identity and sexuality. These two strands of ideology were represented in the seven demands of the movement, established between 1970 and 1978. These were equal pay; equal education and equal opportunities in work; financial and legal independence; free 24-hour day care for children; free contraception (see Birth Control) and abortion on demand; a woman’s right to define her own sexuality and an end to discrimination against lesbians (see Homosexuality); and freedom from violence and sexual coercion (see Domestic Violence; Family Violence; and Rape).

    Women’s Rights MovementIn the late 1960s women began to work for equal rights. They wanted to end discrimination against women at home and work. To accomplish this, women began taking part in marches, working for the passage of the Equal Rights Amendment (ERA), and generally speaking out against inequality. The women in this photograph participated in the Women’s Strike for Equality held in August 1970 in New York City.JP Laffont/Corbis
    Central to second-wave feminism is the notion that the personal is political—that is, individual women do not suffer oppression in isolation but as the result of wider social and political systems. This ideology was greatly influenced by the writings of French philosopher Simone de Beauvoir and American feminist Kate Millett, who drew attention to ways in which women were oppressed by the very structure of Western society. In The Second Sex (1949) de Beauvoir argued that Western culture regarded men as normal and women as an aberration (“the Other”), and she called for the recognition of the special nature of women. Kate Millett, in Sexual Politics (1970), drew attention to the pervasiveness of patriarchy and to the ways in which it was reenforced through the family and culture, notably in literature. The recognition of the rampant nature of patriarchy fueled the feminist idea of universal sisterhood—that women of all cultures and backgrounds can be united within their common oppression.

    Gloria SteinemWriter Gloria Steinem became a leader of the women’s liberation movement in the United States during the 1970s. In this excerpt from her “Address to the Women of America,” Steinem links the campaign for gender equality with that for racial equality.UPI/THE BETTMANN ARCHIVE/Courtesy of Gordon Skene Sound Collection. All rights reserved.
    Second-wave feminism emphasized the physical and psychological differences between women and men. Some feminists criticized traditional psychoanalysis, notably the work of Sigmund Freud, for assuming that all people are, or should be, like men. They became concerned with ways in which women’s perceptions were determined by the particular nature of the female body and by the female roles in reproduction and childbearing (see Pregnancy and Childbirth). In France, feminist theorists Hélène Cixous and Luce Irigaray explored ways of creating knowledge from the viewpoint of the female body, including the idea of écriture féminine (women’s writing) that will look at history from a female point of view. This strand of feminism, which became known as cultural or radical feminism, focused on differences between women and men that they believed make women superior to men, and it advocated female forms of culture. It was regarded as a step backwards by many people who were working toward reducing the reproductive emphasis in women’s lives. Its opponents criticized it for being “essentialist”—that is, for reducing women to bodies and for assuming that all women are the same. Arguments continue over determinist ideas that women are always bound to be caring and nurturing and that men are naturally aggressive.

    Germaine GreerAustralian feminist writer Germaine Greer provoked controversy with her bestselling book The Female Eunuch (1970), in which she advocated sexual freedom for women and criticized the institutions of marriage and the nuclear family.Findlay Kember/AP/Wide World Photos
    A powerful strand of feminism is concerned with the ways in which men have controlled and subordinated women’s bodies. For example, American scholar Mary Daly argued in Gyn/Ecology (1979) that patriarchy coerced women into heterosexuality, using violence to suppress women’s powers and sexuality. Feminists have argued that sexual and domestic violence are not isolated incidents but are central to the subordination of women by patriarchy. Feminists, notably American Andrea Dworkin, wrote powerfully against pornography as a means by which patriarchy exploits women’s bodies and incites violence against women. In response to these threats, feminists asserted women’s legal rights to their own bodies, including the importance of the right to choose motherhood. They have also looked at ways in which women might use motherhood as a source of strength and as a way of influencing future generations, rather than as a means of reproducing patriarchy. In particular, some feminists have advocated different forms of parenting, as single mothers or within lesbian relationships.

    V RECENT DEVELOPMENTS
    Susan FaludiAmerican journalist Susan Faludi stirred controversy with her 1991 book, Backlash: The Undeclared War Against American Women. In this work, Faludi maintained that academia, popular psychology, and the media subtly portray the pursuit of equality as the source of women’s discontent. Faludi argued that it is not the pursuit of equality but the pressure to abandon that pursuit that results in unhappiness for many women.Frank Capri/Saga/Archive Photos
    Feminism has often been criticized as Eurocentric—focused on European and North American culture—by black women and by women in the developing world. For example, Indian critic Gayatri Chakravorty Spivak has accused Anglo-American feminist theorists of making women of the developing world “the Other” by imposing Western perspectives on them. However, women from non-Western cultures have taken up feminist ideas and accommodated them to their own situations. For example, some black feminists have developed a perspective which takes account of the fact that they are doubly marginalized, by race and by sex.

    By contrast, some Asian, Caribbean, and African American feminists have developed politics which draw on their ethnic origins as a source of strength. Feminism in Latin America has looked at oppression across gender, class, and racial lines, although it has recently begun to focus more closely on women’s issues. In Islamic countries a secular, liberal feminism has developed that seeks to eliminate discrimination against women and to outlaw practices such as polygyny (multiple wives), purdah (seclusion in the home), and limitation of the right of divorce to the husband. In India, feminists have organized opposition to the dowry system and subsequent “dowry deaths,” where continuing demands of the groom’s family are not met and result in the murder of the bride.

    Adrienne RichAmerican poet and essayist Adrienne Rich embraced feminism and political activism in mid-career. Many of her poems explore women’s issues and women’s experiences.Huynh Cong/AP/Wide World Photos
    Lesbian writers have argued that feminism has not paid attention to their specific needs. American poet Adrienne Rich has been influential in developing lesbian feminist theory by arguing that heterosexuality is a construct imposed upon women through which men control women’s role in reproduction and render lesbians invisible. Like some black feminists, Rich has argued for the political importance of asserting one’s own identity.

    Another variety of feminist thought, particularly strong in the United Kingdom, is Marxist-feminist theory. This extends the theories of production expounded by German social theorists Karl Marx and Friedrich Engels to an examination of the economic and material exploitation of women, the sexual division of labor, especially in domestic work and childcare, and women’s inequality within the workplace. In the United States a similar position is taken up by materialist feminists, who argue that women as a class are oppressed by material conditions and social relations.

    In recent years, feminist thinking has had to react against the concept of post-feminism, which argues that women have achieved full equality and that there is no need for further activism. It has also had to tackle the phenomenon of backlash, as identified by feminists such as American writer Susan Faludi. This backlash is seen as an attempt by men (and women) in American and British political life and other arenas to reverse the achievements of feminism, for example, by launching renewed moral crusades against abortion and the single-parent family.

    VI IMPACT OF FEMINIST THOUGHT

    Feminist thinking has succeeded in drawing public attention to inequality between women and men and to the structures within society that belittle and work against women. It has led to a reconsideration of women’s role in the workplace, resulting in policies that promote equal pay and equal opportunities. And it has identified and tackled the problem of sexual harassment at work. Feminism has also succeeded in challenging perceptions of women’s skills, with the result that some women are entering nontraditional areas of female employment such as the construction industry.

    Feminism has influenced culture, resulting in greater coverage of women’s interests and concerns, particularly by the mass media. Feminist thinking has adapted and diversified to tackle new issues, including AIDS (see Acquired Immunodeficiency Disease Syndrome), homophobia (prejudice against homosexuals), technology, and warfare. Some feminists have combined feminist ideas with pacifist and environmental ideologies to condemn nuclear weapons and criticize new technologies. These include reproductive technologies (see In vitro fertilization) and surrogate motherhood, which are regarded as means by which men exert control over women’s bodies.

    Feminist thinking has had a powerful influence upon many academic disciplines, including anthropology, sociology, psychology, literary criticism, history, theology, and the sciences. Feminist scholars are undertaking research that draws attention to neglected female concerns, and they are exposing the patriarchal assumptions that underlie traditional approaches to scholarship.

    Microsoft ® Encarta ® 2009. © 1993-2008 Microsoft Corporation. All rights reserved.

    1. I really don’ think you should have brought this here…Xikay…

      1. na im make i beg admin before i post am…but what is wrong with it? TOO LONG?

        1. Yeah…and that it distracts from the main koko…which is Emma’s post.

  5. I have read the article again…and I see where Kaycee is coming from. I understand his argument…I just do NOT agree with it.

    Madame Emma…if you used your bible as reference…you would understand why marriage is so important to women. God created Eve for one reason and ONE REASON only; He saw that man was lonely and said, ‘it is not good for man to be alone; I would create a companion for him’. If I understand the meaning of the word companion – i figure you would understand where I’m headed.

    Now, maybe I might not agree that marriage is indeed the zenith for/of the woman…I would however seek for you to realise that she was created for man. Now, a whole lot of things fit into the role of ‘companion’…but she was created TO KEEP MAN company.

    Of course…not to walk behind him…nor ahead of him…but BESIDE him because she is COMPANY for him. And like I said before, because a lot of things fall into the role of companion…it is expedient to marry so as not to take those things made clear to us as belonging within the confines of marriage out of it…like we so easily do nowadays.

    In my own opinion o…I love independent women. They drive me nuts. But…do you know the best kind of independent woman?

    The one with a man.

  6. Love your comments. I will claim to be joking if my comments blow up in my face. I am educated sha, @ Seun, very much so infact, and I intend to gather more degrees. I even read feminism for a year. My comments are not too absurd anyway. In truth, men are tired of women whining and grumbling.

    1. Kaycee…i agree that men are tired of women grumbling and complaining. I am tired of it.

      Women claim to be marginalized and some more bullshit. I say ‘deal with it’! You don’t want to know how many times a girl got a job over a guy simply because she was ‘a girl’. You don’t want to know how many times an okada man you called first would go right past you to pick the girl who wasn’t even trying to call him. You don’t want to know how many times cab guys have done the exact same thing. Their excuse? ‘The women don’t haggle on price as much as the guys’. I go ‘yeah. that’s because some fool guy somewhere is the one picking the tab’.

      My point? Both sides have grievances against the other…but the truth is the truth. There’s no reason for sexism and segregation…I think those are fruits of ignorance. I for one despise a girl who waits for things to come to her. Go for yours ma!!

      My opine!

      1. U dey yarn joor!

        1. Thanks man. Thanks.

  7. Emmanuella, you’ve written a provocative piece and by the responses on here, some people are well and truly provoked.
    Let’s be clear about one thing, I’m not a feminist at least not in the placard carrying or bra-burning faction. But I certainly get irritated when people use bible quotes as a means to put women down.

    If God created woman purely to give man sexual pleasure and bear his children then why did He give her a brain as well. Surely she would have functioned as effectively with just a pair of breasts and a womb.

    The fact remains that if there weren’t men constantly putting women down, there wouldn’t be women who would feel obliged to fight for their place in society.

    1. You amuse me. ‘if there weren’t men constantly putting women down’.

      Let me ask you this; how many stories of molestation have you read on NS?!?! How many wife beater stories? How many on rape…stories of incest and so on?!?! You don’t see us being in an uproar about it now do you?! You don’t see a whole bunch of stories about women raping men do you…or blackmailing them for promotion…or you don’t know these things happen?!?! We just don’t let them bother us!

      Now…on the other hand there are stories too that praise men…exult our wonderful qualities…and so on. And even if there weren’t…I still wouldn’t give a hoot. You know why? Cos I’m a great guy…I try my best to be the man’s man. So if you define me by general terms…MORE FOOL YOU. I am anything but.

      Someone told me…’the world’s greatest racist is the black man’. I agree…same way the greatest male chauvinists are the females.

      Nuff said.

  8. @Kiru Taye, God gave women brain, we know. But God didn’t ask women to use sex instead of brain.

  9. @kaycee, u got a point, but then, its not a point to reckon with….its but fallacy…except mayb dats dia importance to you.well not to the teeming millions..
    @xikay, I haff tire for u,..wetin, are u tryn to educate us more than the post author? Whty you tryn to do buy copying & pasting encatar pages? We are spoze to lay comments not tell the world dat we got a personal computer wit encartar on it…#allglovesOff #teamNSisBoring
    Nuff sed
    @Ella; nice conjure, too long but I guess I’m guilty of such….as well..#high5

    1. Abeg…helep me ask Xikay that thing AGAIN!!!!

  10. Emmanuella don open Pandora’s Box for here.

    The entire series should have been titled ‘Female Issues’ naa. Provocative piece! Hehehe. Keep slanging y’all!

  11. Emmanuella Nduonofit (@Emmanuella-Nduonofit)

    You know, reading and re-reading these very male comments on a piece about women made me laugh non-end. :D :D :D Guys, you have truly entertained me, gratias mucho for that. I guess no NS-woman spoke up maybe because they felt there was no need to, for prominent NS-men would do just that, and ‘they’ did: @Kaycee behaves like a ‘chauvinist’ and @Xikay ‘shuts’ him down, @Seun-odukoya comes in as ‘mediator’ and @Raymond ‘acts’ carefully by ‘chipping’ in once in a while [pretty much like putting his hand or finger up tentatively in a classroom], and then of course, there’s those general comments as usual.

    Maybe to some NS-woman this third part shouldn’t have existed at all, because I rambled here. And as expected, this ramble ‘provoked’, according to @Kirutaye and @Raymond. At least one could see from the first and second parts how quite old this ‘memoir’ and ‘narrative non-fiction’ has been. And this was one of my very first pieces I published in The POINTER Newspaper here in Asaba. Na wa o! U guys don try! ;)

    Now, my own be say – Na who go clean up una ‘spit’ wey u leave for dis NS-floor eh? No be me, o, because now that I’ve recovered my NS-priesthood back, I can just ask the NS-god to … Anyway, dis wan no be threat abeg o!!! :) Coolu down.

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