Up in the Air is a 2009 movie starring George Clooney. The movie follows Ryan Bingham (George Clooney) who goes around the world firing people. I didn’t really know that type of job existed. Like, what’s the need hiring someone to fire someone. Why not use the money for the firer to pay the firee for… say a month longer. But it didn’t take anything away from the film. The film is very good. So if you haven’t seen it yet, please do so.
But, my major likeness for the film had to do with the issues it tackled. George Clooney’s character never believed in ties. Not ‘ties’ as in bow ties but ties to people. He never believed in family, love, friendship and all that. He just packed a briefcase and moved. When the film started, I knew this idea of no ‘ties’ at all was a little extreme. Even animals have ties. For him, hotels and airplanes and air hostesses and room service and waiters and waitresses and barmen were all he needed. And of course, his cards – credit card and all that.
So, like you rightly guessing now, he meets a female who believes in exactly the same thing. They connect within minutes. And shag within hours. So this new adventure starts for him. Somehow this woman seemed different. I guess her shag was quite different or sweeter. So, just like that, something special starts. They both meet more times. Have great shags. Attend a family wedding. We all know how much weddings reminds us of settling down. So the events of that particular wedding makes George Clooney’s character rethink his stance on ‘ties’ or no ‘ties’.
Like most romance movies end, he runs out of a conference where he is delivering a speech. He boards the next flight and goes straight for his true love he went. Like every man in love, he finds the address much quicker than he should.
And then standing at the door, with a very big smile, his true love. They kiss and and shag and then they get married and then live happily ever after.
Okay, that was how it was supposed to happen. But we are talking about an Oscar movie here so it doesn’t quite end that way.
Well, it turns out his true special love is married. And have kids. And a happy family. But she was having sex with him without the courtesy of even telling him she is married… and happily too. So he leaves the scene and goes to a quiet place to probably think a little and cry a little as well. But she calls him and the following dialogue takes place…
RYAN BINGHAM : I thought I was a part of your life.
ALEX GORAN : I thought we signed up for the same thing… I thought our relationship was perfectly clear. You are an escape. You’re a break from our normal lives. You’re a parenthesis.
RYAN BINGHAM : (shocked) A parenthesis?
Good consolation, right? Just the exact thing she needed to say. I guess a ‘parenthesis’ is probably so stupid he would probably not understand what ‘marriage’ is… and happily too. So just go ahead and deceive the ‘parenthesis’. After all, he is a ‘parenthesis’. This screenwriter was so f$$$ing good I totally disliked this character like she was real.
Why am I writing about this? I have heard similar stories in real life. And the film just made me want to write something about it. That was how pissed off I was.
A guy once told a story in August about this girl and how much they were in love. The girl goes home for holidays and calls one September night to tell him she got married that same day. He thinks it is a joke until he sees the wedding pictures when school resumed that September.
Another guy hears from some friends that his ‘true’ love is getting married. The guy calls his ‘true’ love on phone who tells him that it is not what they will discuss on phone. The ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer to the question ‘are you getting married?’ is not what you talk about on phone? That’s fantastic.
I remember these two stories and it’s always so funny.
I know some people will say guys do it more. There is always this big difference. When a guy doesn’t love a girl, he ‘honestly’ knows he doesn’t love the girl and a smart sensible girl knows this guy doesn’t really love her. Let us face the facts. Girls always go with the ‘he’ll change’ phrase. This most times mean they know about whatever trick(s) the guy is gonna come up with in the future. But they keep ‘faithing’ and hoping the guy will change. And when the James Bond acts like the James Bond that he is, they pretend like they never saw it coming.
Now, in a girl’s case, she’s ‘honestly’ in love with you. So you look at her and you know she really loves you. This is the big difference. A guy knows he doesn’t love you but lies that he loves you. A girl loves or doesn’t love you but believes honestly she loves you and tells you she loves you. Sometimes it’s really a very funny scenario.
So, what’s my point?
If you get boyfriend or husband person come wan do anything with you, tell am say you get somebody. It’ll really help the guy know what to expect and what not to.
I think in 2011 it’ll probably be better for you to imagine your ‘true’ love has some ‘truer’ love. Might help you just avoid wasting that much money on plane tickets like George Clooney when you are just a ‘parenthesis’. No make yourself ‘parenthesis’ this.
This goes for the ladies too. No let any guy make you parenthesis. We don’t want another girl crying “men sha” on NS.