Woman On Fire!

Woman On Fire!

Females, from the day we are born till when we die, there’s never rest for us from society and the people we call family.
We are trained as girls to be good at house chores, be good home makers, good at managing things and using them to their maximum point.
As ladies, society trains us; we are not to be caught ‘gisting’ or we’ll be labelled as gossips, we are not expected to appear dishevelled after a long day at work or we’ll be labelled dirty.
Society doesn’t expect us to stay at home in this century, even when we work from home or we’ll be labelled lazy.

The society and our families expect a great deal from us and they are never afraid of asking but we are always too scared of not jumping through the hoops they throw at us or to stop asking ‘how high?’ when they ask us to jump. We are scared of what our families will think, what society will say when we want to do things out of ‘their’ norm.
We want to do things just for ourselves but we are scared because the world will tell us how selfish we’re being.

The journey never stops.

We get to a certain age and we are expected to get married and have children even when we know the goals we’ve set for ouerselves don’t have that plan on the calendar at that point or maybe we don’t even plan to at all. But No! Society says we must, our families says we must and when we’re tired of the bullying, we turn prey to their predator. But we never forget that it’s our own lives that will be affected.

Even when we get old, they don’t leave us to live the little time we have left; we are expected to age gracefully and act in a certain way until we die, living a life society and our families have subtly-or not, arranged for us.
We appease the world and remain resigned souls.

What happened to our happiness? Our goals? Our dreams?
Must we fight the world before they can hear a word of what we say?
Must they tell us No and- if we are the determined ones, make us prove ourselves?
Are we not human enough?
Haven’t we sacrificed ourselves, our time and our resources enough?
Why do they constantly doubt us?
Must we constantly prove that we are capable of making sound decisions and taking risks?

Before we are born, a path has already been set for us. It takes a strong woman, a woman on fire, to set a different path, a path that makes her happy, impacts life and tells the world who she is, in her own way!


12 thoughts on “Woman On Fire!” by Vanessa's Writings (@Vanessa)

  1. Ufuoma Otebele (@ufuomaotebele)

    I agree, it does take a strong woman to set a different path for herself. The sad part is that there are not enough of these “strong women.” But we’ll get there.

  2. Levuz (@Levuz)

    Nice, although lopsided. Women don’t really suffer this much anymore. Talk of all those extra care they enjoy from the world just because they are ‘ladies’.

    Keep writing Vanessa

    1. Ezeama Chijioke Desmond (@Chijy)

      Nice, but I agree with you @levuz. Women don’t really suffer this much.

  3. Good job. It’s true women have never had i easy, but indeed a woman on fire can stand up for herself and do what makes her happy

  4. Vanessa's writings (@Vanessa)

    We’ll definitely get there, thanks Ufuoma!

  5. Vanessa's writings (@Vanessa)

    You guys ehn! Let’s not start our own o. Just know that we’ve never had it easy unless we employ our feminine ways. I’m talking about ladies going for what they want without the need to employ feminine ways/please the world. Guys, it’s not easy. Thanks for your comments!

  6. Vanessa's writings (@Vanessa)

    Yes o. Thanks Folakemi!

  7. Nice one Vanessa. But I think it’s an African thing. And it’s not just the women but the men also suffer similar fate.

  8. Although the women to a larger extent.
    Love the piece.
    P.s. Still a fan!

  9. Vanessa's writings (@Vanessa)

    Let’s just try to stand up for what we want, no matter the gender. Thanks Timothy!

  10. Adanna Otuechere (@Ada123)

    @vanessa I agree with you women should be treated delicately like eggs.

  11. Vanessa's writings (@Vanessa)

    Thanks Adanna!

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