Happy New Year everyone! I hope you all are as excited and optimistic about 2016 as I am. It’s going to be a wonderful year for us all by God’s Grace. Let’s keep the flame of hope burning bright. Where there is life there is hope. Let’s do away with procrastination this year and get up on and about with the things we have purposed in our hearts to do, remembering that God’s Grace is sufficient for us.
Now, there has been a couple of issues my girls and I have been discussing for a while now and one of the topics is Going Natural and what men really think about it. The general perception about how men (especially black men) feel about natural hair is that they tend to appreciate a woman who has a nice hair do regardless of thw texture or material used. For most men its all about how nice and good looking the hair is. Does it sit well on the woman? Does it attenuate her face? Was the choice of color (weaves and braids) right?
I once saw an episode on Trisha on this same topic. A woman on the show was so addicted to wearing weaves that she couldn’t answer the front door if she had her natural hair exposed. She would have to wear a wig to cover it. Crazy right? I thought so as well but you see its not just this woman who has a self esteem problem, there are so many women out there who think little or nothing about paying attention to their hair in general. They are willing to pay thousands of dollars or naira to get that perfect human hair fixed on their heads while disregarding to take care of their natural hair. A popular Nigerian comedian once joked “some of you ladies go around with a plot of land on your hair”. Humourous? Yeah but also kind of sad. What would happen if they actually invested half that amount of money in giving their hair some TLC (Tender, Love and Care)?
There was a recent survey conducted by T.A Johnson in New york city amongst black men and it showed that about 5% of the women wore their hair naturally at least some days. Of these women, very few they tend to feel that they are accepted in multiple social environments. They experienced teasing, taunting, or ridiculing about their hair in its natural state mainly from family members, friends and their partners. About 40% of Black men preferred weaves and permed hair. 30% were indifferent. These preliminary findings challenged the expectation that the researchers had and had me slightly stunned as well. Another article by The genuine scholar claims that White men appreciate natural hair more.
Why can’t we feel beautiful in our own skin? What’s wrong with rocking the natural look? I am an advocate for women appreciating themselves more in the natural state and being comfortable with who they are. Have our men become so desensitised that they no longer appreciate the symbolic and beauty that natural African hair excudes?
So guys, what do you really think about natural hair? Does it mean more to you how a woman rocks her hair or are you indifferent? Please give honest answers! Say it as it is for you.