I promised a piece written for the ladies on how to treat their spouse. Well, here it is. These are some of my personal secrets I hope to carry out someday.
Women have this wrong notion that they’re the only ones who need romance but they seem to forget that men have needs too (and I’m not talking about sex alone.)
Women, you do know that you can have three kids and still be in good shape, right? I’m not saying you won’t put on weight…of course you will, its genetics. But you can control the kind of weight you put on to avoid looking unattractive to your men. Some women let themselves go after having kids, believing that motherhood comes with looking unkempt and unattractive. Says who?
If you want your man to keep coming back for more; treat him like a king and make him know that his opinion about your looks matter. I wonder about women who feel that their looks at home doesn’t matter; you find them dressed in wrapper tied from their chest down looking ten years older. I mean, come on!
What’s wrong if you look good at home for your man? He’s at the office all day and sees all types and sizes of women dressed smartly…he doesn’t want to come home to meet a woman encased in wrapper from the chest down like an Egyptian mummy.
He won’t mind getting home and seeing you dressed in shorts and a tank top or even a sexy nightgown with equally sexy lingerie. Remember this; men are attracted by what they see. If you want them to keep their eyes on you, make sure you do your best to look extraordinary for him.
After he’s had dinner, clinch the deal by engaging in a full-bodied erotic massage (Strictly for married couples). This kind of massage usually ends up in a passionate night of love-making because you’re both naked as you massage him. I can’t go into full details on this but you could read up on it, ladies.
For women who work till late at night, you can plan this for the weekend; send the kids off to a friend’s place for the day and give your man a mind-blowing treatment.
Now, I’m going to get a bit mischievous. What I’m about to say next cannot be done by all ladies but please try it if you can. You ever hear the word ‘Quickie’? Yup! Exactly! Men love that. The truth is; men love anything about sex. That’s usually the way you get their attention.
Here comes the mischievous part…ladies pay your hubby a surprise visit in the office, preferably during his lunch break or whenever suits you best. I suggest you wear a simple dress like a gown (for easy access). For God’s sake don’t dress like an old woman when paying him this surprise visit…dress for- his -eyes -only kind of dressing and strut into his office. When both of you are alone, indulge yourselves in a quickie on the office table. Hey, I don’t know how private you can be and don’t ask me. I’II only give the advice I can to the best of my knowledge but do all you can to make sure that what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Comprende?
The truth is there are several things you could do to keep your man happy and satisfied; you just have to be creative and sometimes even crazy. You can take him to the cinema and choose a comfortable seat at the back and while seeing the movie (preferably a romance movie) start making out with him. It’s just an idea outta many.
Permit me to share another of my many ideas; ladies, convince your hubby to play a game with you…it could be any game but there has to be a fine for the loser. Guess what that fine is? Stripping! For every game you lose; you take off a piece of clothing…you decide what happens next when all your clothes are off.
Who says marriage can’t be fun?
Ladies, don’t make the mistake of denying your husband sex because as Paul says in 1Corinthians 7:4-5 “The wife’s body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband’s body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time…”
I have a word for pregnant women who lose appetite for sex at a certain stage in their pregnancy. Now, no one is saying you have to have sex with your husband even when you’re too large to carry yourself…but, you can make him feel wanted. When you’re both in bed, cuddle him and touch him in those places he likes best, you can even make out lightly with him…that way he doesn’t feel neglected.
Remember this; it takes two to tango, for a relationship to work, both parties do the giving. Women don’t be selfish; to make your spouse happy, be creative. Note the things he likes best. It’s not just about sex; it could be watching a football match with your man (if he’s a football fan, that is.)It could also be leaving love notes in odd places, sending him sexy/erotic text messages at odd times. Choose whatever works for you.
That’s it for now, ladies. I do hope I’ve been able to point out a few things your men would like. I’m not an expert, so this is my own ten pence.